Dear Fatherless Daughter

denna babul
Dear Fatherless Daughter,

I have been thinking a lot about you with Father’s Day coming around the corner. I can imagine the pain evoked out of nowhere when you are sitting on the sofa watching your favorite show, and a little girl appears on the screen carrying a handmade card to a father who is opening up his arms to her. I know this vision can still bring you to your knees. You miss the man he was or wish he could have been. Father’s Day can be not just a reminder, but a blatant white flag of what you have had to endure and give up along the way. You did not ask for this. It was not what you have chosen, yet still, you have had to pick up the pieces.

What I know for sure is his loss will break you. There will be parts of you; you may never get to know. There will be things taken from you before you even had a chance to see the hole they will cause in your heart. You will go through life initially, not knowing their impact. You will experience anger and sadness that even you can’t completely understand. The pain will continue to mount until one day you fall so deep into that hole that all you see is darkness. I know because I have been there.

Then, because you are a fighter and have had to fight for so long, you will decide you want to come out of that hole. You will dig and scratch without asking for help because you are used to going it alone. Perhaps because you have had to do it that way for as long as you remember or as a result of the pain, you don’t trust the hands that are reaching out to you. Never the less you will start to want to get better.

At some point, maybe after staying in the hole too long, or falling back in too many times, you will finally allow someone to help you. You will learn that there are people out there that love you. You will start to look beyond the ghost of that father figure and begin to see the love that has been surrounding you along the way in the forms of stand-in fathers, friends, loved ones, and maybe even co-workers.

You will begin to grow from the pain and accept the love around you. You will allow others to help, and with that, you will turn your pain into power. You will start to let go of some of the sadness and replace it with the light that others are offering you, but only when you are genuinely ready to see it.

You are a powerful woman. You will learn this at a perfect divine time in your life because every journey is different. You will not only survive, but you will also thrive my sister. You were meant to let go of the pain you carry.

You are here for a bigger purpose.

One day you will experience the freedom from the sadness. No matter where you are on your fatherless journey, always remember, you are loved.
You have a sisterhood.
We support you.
We honor where you are and encourage you to keep going.
It does get better.
You will find the love you deserve.
Your life will be full of happiness and fulfillment.
Just believe in the possibilities.
You, my friend, are endless.

xoxo,
Denna

New Book Alert: The Truth About Men by Devon Franklin

The Truth About Men
This past weekend I had the distint pleasure of meeting Devon Franklin on Atlanta & Company and agian later at his book signing for his new book, “The Truth About Men.” Have you ever met someone and instantly felt connected like you had known them your entire lives? Well, that is how it felt meeting Devon. He is as genuine as they come, and a self made powerhouse! He is also a fatherless son which was a big part in him wanting to write this book. After coming to terms with both his dad’s untimely death and infidelity… he wondered, do all men cheat? He set out to write a book to encourage both men and women on what it is to give and receive the love from a man. I have to say, he hit it out of the park. It is a must read for anyone looking for love or to love even better.

The Truth About Men
This past weekend I had the distint pleasure of meeting Devon Franklin on Atlanta & Company and agian later at his book signing for his new book, “The Truth About Men.” Have you ever met someone and instantly felt connected like you had known them your entire lives? Well, that is how it felt meeting Devon. He is as genuine as they come, and a self made powerhouse! He is also a fatherless son which was a big part in him wanting to write this book. After coming to terms with both his dad’s untimely death and infidelity… he wondered, do all men cheat? He set out to write a book to encourage both men and women on what it is to give and receive the love from a man. I have to say, he hit it out of the park. It is a must read for anyone looking for love or to love even better.

Second Annual Fatherless Masterclass Saturday, March 23rd in Atlanta

Join us for the second annual Fatherless Masterclass in Atlanta on Saturday, March 23rd from 8:30 to 4:00 pm. The day will be filled with a special group of fatherless daughters who are ready to better understand their pasts in order to have a thriving future. We will be discussing relationships, friendships, daddy silemmas and so much more. If you have always wondered where you belong, it is here. This is your tribe. Be prepared to come out with a unique understanding of why you are who you are. How to thrive inspite of your pain, and how to make 2019 your year!

My New Segment Friend to Friend on NBC’s Atlanta & Company Can Help You Get Your Friend Back!

Friend to Friend

Do you have a friend that you have lost touch with and you miss them? Perhaps you and a friend had a falling out and with space you have formed enough clarity to revisit the friendship but you just don”t know how to make the first move. Why is it that we will go to therapy to mend a failed marriage, but we will not seek the help we need to a broken friendship? These are the questions that kept swirling around my head when I came up with the idea for this segment. If you are in search of the answers or want a friendemption, contact me at Denna@DennaBabul.com. Pose your question via email and we may just ask you to be a guest on the show. We love bringing friendships back together. We need our friends, and I want to get your girl back!

My Neighborhood is Cooler Than Yours: The Giving Tree

I dearly love my neighborhood. Just the other day I was out for a walk when I came upon the giving tree. A tree one of my neighbors has devoted to helping others live their best lives. Each branch holds a dream wish for the scribers new year. Each person who passes the tree is welcomed with a mix of colorful pens, note pad and ribbon to play along. I can’t tell you how much pride that tree brings me. Thank you to the neighbor who had the forthought to offer our neighborhood such a beautiful gift. P.S. My wish was to take my message to help all women turn their pain into power to a global platform in 2019!

HBO Theatre: Let’s Reimagine: Parentloss

Purpose: The Second Act of Loss

What a surreal moment to walk down the halls of HBO in NYC and into the theatre where a picture of you and your book are staring back at you from the screen. I was so moved to be part of such an excellent expert line up speaking on parent loss in NYC last week. I was joined by Cara Belvin of EMPOWERher, Hope Edelman of Motherless Daughters, Rebecca Soffer who co-wrote Modern Loss, Meghan O’Rourke who wrote The Long Goodbye, Cynthia Whipple who help found The Conversation: Stories that Matter, and so many more amazing people dedicating their lives to helping people through grief. What a rewarding experience!

New Segment: Friend to Friend on NBC

Friend to Friend

In today’s climate we need our friends more than ever. Why is it that women will go to couple’s therapy to heal an intimate relationship but won’t do the work to heal a friendship? I got to thinking about that question and decided to do something about it. I wrote a show and have started a segment on NBC’s Atlanta & Company to help other women understand their friendship issues better. If you have a friendship question you are seeking advice for email me at Denna@DennaBabul.com

To watch the first segment below:

The Fatherless Daughter Movement Tribe is in full effect

Book signing

My Fatherless Daughter Movement Tribe is the best! Thank you to all of the brave ladies that share their stories and continue to bestow their wisdom on all of us. You girls ROCK!

Campowerment is my new jam!

Camping is my jam!

Camping is my new jam! Campowerment is the beautiful sisterhood I never knew I was missing. We cried. We laughed. We ate. We healed. We learned. We bonded. Such a powerful experience. I never thought  I would say this, but screw the Ritz…I’d rather go to Campowerment.

Denna’s Book of the Month

Denna’s Book of the Month

I stumbled upon this book after watching Steve Job’s comencement speech at Standford. I was looking for inspiration for a leadership course and ended up coming across his daughter, Lisa Brennan-Jobs debut memoir. Coincidenally, it was Lisa, not her father who ended up inspiring me the most. I never tire of hearing stores of women who have turned their pain into power into purpose. This is a revealing read behind the doors of her infamous father’s rise to fame and their difficult father-daughter relationship along the way. Anyone who has hoped for a better realtionship with a parent will relate to her story.