Happy Birthday Hubby!

Celebration

This past weekend we celebrated my beautiful husband turning the BIG 40! We are in the back center of this picture surrounded by the friends we cherish the most.  I threw a huge surpirse party and almost pulled it off until one of our longtime friends walked right in front of us parking the car outside of the venue. It was a hilarious moment actually because my husband said, “Was that Nelie I just saw?” Nelie lives almost 2 hours a way. I said, “Yep! SURPRISE!”  We laughed and walked in hand in hand into the restaurant where my husband was overwhelmed with a BIG “SURPRISE” from friends and family. We toasted the night away. What a blessing it has been to have this man in my life for the past 17 years. Here is to the next 40 years babe!

The Top 5 Reasons Not to Give Up On Your Dreams

You may have found this post today because you are feeling exhausted, overwhelmed or maybe even lost in the minutiae of trying to have it all. You have a dream. You have a job, and perhaps you have a family. You want to be fulfilled in all aspects of your life but usually it is the dream that can get left out in the cold of an over committed life. It takes a lot of mental stamina and blind hope to keep working towards a dream when all of these things are constantly getting in your way. This is a reminder that YOU need to KEEP GOING! Read more

Add #SameTribe to your social media platforms if you want to bring awareness to fatherlessness

#SAME TRIBE

1 in 3 women have been the victim of sexual assault or harassment.

1 in 3 women are fatherless.

Although the 2 are not mutually exclusive the silence can be. In our society, women are taught to be ashamed of things that happen TO them. In the sometimes brainwashed mentality of our society we often blame the victim first. I believe this has a lot to do with why, we as fatherless daughters, tend to keep our emotions of loss, shame and guilt to ourselves when it comes to fatherlessness. We don’t want to bring attention to a) our fathers and b) our loss or abandonment. The reasons are twofold. Read more

My Year Of Yes: Why 47 Is My New 25

25 Things

When I look at this picture it immediately takes me back to when I was 25 years old full of guilt and ambition. This picture symbolizes what I thought would be my life. I dreamed of becoming a creator. My dreams of writing for T.V. started when I was a young girl while watching Saturday Night Live. Read more

Let That Submarine Sink: How To Handle A Man-Child Who Keeps Popping Back In Your Life

 

If you are a woman walking on this planet you have undoubtedly been faced with the unnerving situation of “submarining.” The new pop culture term defining when a man you are dating ghosts you for no real reason only to pop back up a few months later with no explanation or apology as to why he left in the first place. It is why girl’s night out, wine nights, urgent phone calls in the middle of the night and self-help books exist today. We need a group of like-minded women to help us analyze these confusing situations pronto. Because we simply don’t get what the hell happened in the first place. Having a tribe of supporters to remind us that sometimes it is actually the about the guy and not about us is just what the doctor ordered.

 

I once had this hot Vin Diesel looking guy court me from afar for years. He was friends with my ex and always seemed to be checking me out when we were in the same vicinity. I loved the attention and when my ex and I broke ties he happened to pop up at the same party I was attending. He asked me out. We had an amazing date and talked at a restaurant into the wee hours of the morning. He dropped me off at my doorstep and asked me to accompany him to a friends wedding the next day. I never heard form him again. My pride stopped me from asking what happened, and I assumed it was because of some kind of guy code with my ex. Years later I ran back into him. He asked me back out and basically the same thing happened again only this time there was no wedding just a promise to see me again. Keep in mind we never got past first base. Fast-forward a few months later to me seeing him out and confronting him. Come to find out I reminded him of his old babysitter whom he had, had a brief affair with as a young adult and had never truly gotten over. We would have never gotten anywhere as a couple. All it took was me asking him what had happened to find out all I ever needed to know. He wasn’t ready for a relationship with me or anyone else for that matter.

As a relationship expert I see this phenomena all the time. When a woman meets a man like this she has to simply cut bait and remind the universe that she is worthy of an adult conversation if and when the guy decides to duck out.

 

If you find yourself in a relationship or early “like” with a submarine, let him sink. He most likely has a commitment issue and can’t seem to wrap his mind around staying the course in a new relationship for what ever his reasons are. If he has managed to pull you back in, simply give him a boundary list. Tell him what you will and will not put up with. Let him know that if he is thinking about circling back your way he needs to be ready to do what he says he is going to do like: show up, follow-up and man up in the situation. Remember, delivery is key and standing up for what you want is HOT and NOT bitchy.

 

Submarining is a crappy behavior. It is only acceptable if he comes back with a reason for leaving you hanging in the first place. Women have to know what they will and will not stand for. We have to teach men-children exactly what real women want and expect. The minute you give him room to resort back to childhood behavior you are setting yourself up for another submarine submersion and who knows how long they will stay under this time.

 

 

 

 

Do You Want To Become A Fatherless Daughter Mentor? Now Is Your Chance!

Become a Fatherless Daughter Mentor

 

Check out some of our fatherless daughter mentors in this video talking about how one of our events impacted their lives.

Join us for our next #FatherlessDaughterMovementMentorshipProgram in Atlanta on Saturday, November 4th. Read more

Do You Want To Know Why You Are In A Love-Hate Relationship?

Are You In A Double Bind?

Are you in a love hate relationship with someone and you can’t figure out what gives? Do you feel like you are losing your mind with all of the mixed messages and wondering if you should stay or run like hell in the opposite direction? Well…there is a perfectly good term to define what is actually going on in your head and in your relationship. Read more

You May Be A Fatherless Daughter If…

You May Be Fatherless If…

  • …the only interaction you have with your father is on Facebook

…you haven’t seen your father in the last year

…if you lack an emotional bond with your father

…if he got remarried and started a new family Read more

Could Your Broken Heart Be A Self-Fulfilled Prophecy?

Could Your Broken Heart Be A Self-Fulfilled Prophecy?

 

ALERT: This post may piss you off.

Let me set the stage for you. The definition of a self-fulfilled prophecy is a positive or negative expectation about circumstances, events, or people that may affect a persons behavior toward them in a manner that he or she (unknowingly) creates situations in which those expectations are fulfilled. Basically, being fatherless may have pre-programmed you for a broken heart. Read more

Do You Want To Be A Fatherless Daughter Movement Mentor?

Are you a fatherless daughter, or do you love someone who is fatherless? If so, you may be the perfect mentor. Picture your favorite small group/book club with the topic being all things fatherless. You don’t need to be a therapist..you just need to be someone who has been greatly affected by fatherlessness and feel lead to help. Read more