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Denna’s Book of the Month

Denna’s Book of the Month

I stumbled upon this book after watching Steve Job’s comencement speech at Standford. I was looking for inspiration for a leadership course and ended up coming across his daughter, Lisa Brennan-Jobs debut memoir. Coincidenally, it was Lisa, not her father who ended up inspiring me the most. I never tire of hearing stores of women who have turned their pain into power into purpose. This is a revealing read behind the doors of her infamous father’s rise to fame and their difficult father-daughter relationship along the way. Anyone who has hoped for a better realtionship with a parent will relate to her story.

Even the Royals Have Family Drama

Even Royals Have Family Drama

Photo courtesy of TMZ

Wedding Season is upon us…and even the royals have drama!

If you are like me, you feel sorry for Meghan Markle. She and her father have been somewhat estranged for last 12 years per the reports.

She, like all fatherless daughters, probably wants the fairytale. I am sure she wanted her father to walk her down the aisle. It is unfortunate that under the current circumstances he will not be able to do so.

My advice to her and any fatherless daughter during wedding season is to not let the actions of others take away from your special day.

If you are getting married this season and are fatherless here are a few pointers:

-Allow your day to be surrounded by love. Don’t invite or feel like you have to invite anyone who may make you feel less than loved. You deserve one day to be just about you.

-Let everyone know who or what is off limits to be discussed around you during your special day. You should focus just on that amazing fiancé of yours.

-Choose a gutsy friend to be your gatekeeper. If that Uncle who likes to drink too much starts to get out of hand, give your friend instructions on how to excuse him from the festivities.

-Take some time to talk to your fiancé and his family about any concerns you may have about your family. Getting it all out in the open will free your mind and let you enjoy the day.

-In today’s world it is acceptable to walk yourself down the aisle, have a friend, or even have your mother do the honors. Don’t fret. We make our own rules.

-If your father is deceased, decide how and if you want to honor your father. Perhaps you write a sentiment in your wedding program or dance with your brother for the father-daughter dance. Some brides choose to forgo the dance all together. There are no rules, it is your day!

What is most important is you have found your soul mate. You waited a long time for your fairytale. Make sure you protect it. Don’t let your past have a front seat in your happily ever after.

P.S. Yes! My alarm is set for 5am eastern on Saturday!