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Denna’s Book of the Month

Denna’s Book of the Month

I stumbled upon this book after watching Steve Job’s comencement speech at Standford. I was looking for inspiration for a leadership course and ended up coming across his daughter, Lisa Brennan-Jobs debut memoir. Coincidenally, it was Lisa, not her father who ended up inspiring me the most. I never tire of hearing stores of women who have turned their pain into power into purpose. This is a revealing read behind the doors of her infamous father’s rise to fame and their difficult father-daughter relationship along the way. Anyone who has hoped for a better realtionship with a parent will relate to her story.

Denna’s Book Club Pick of the month!

Anxiety: The Missing Stage of Grief

My book club pick of the month is Claire Bidwell Smith’s latest book, “Anxiety: The Missing Stage of Grief.” This book has the answers to something I knew I always needed but could never figure out why. I lost my father at 13 and anxiety set in very quickly waking me up every morning to remind me that something tragic had happened to me. Although I have since learned techniques to quiet my mind and slow down my bodies fight or flight reaction, I still wake up many mornings with anxiety. As with loss, anxiety is rooted in pain and fear. Claire’s book holds the key to helping us to continue to understand what it means to grieve.

 

 

Who Wore The Biggest Earrings?

Atlanta & Company Shenanigans

We ALAWAYS have a blast on Atlanta & Company. This was during a commercial break where we all noticed we each had on BIG earrings! On this day we discussed the Royal Wedding and family drama. We all have it. Lot’s of laughs and always a good time with these ladies.

Girlboss!

Sophia Amoruso

 

What a delight to meet Sophia Amoruso this weekend in LA. She is the epitome of a survivor! We are also twining in the name game. Her mother’s name is Denna and my daughter’s name is Sophia. Must be cosmic.

I never tire if seeing women on the top of their game. She created NastyGal out of an Ebay store, dealt with bankruptcy, went through a divorce only to create something even more powerful in Girlboss.

She is a walking reminder that there is more than one BIG thing in our lives. When you fall down you get back up. When you belive in yourself you can create anything. She is pure power.

Goop!

Goop!

This weekend I was in the front row of the @girlbossrally in LA where I got to listen to Gwyneth Paltrow talk about starting her company… Goop! She is obviosuly beautiful, but her business game is where it is really at. She is full of spunk, oozing with charisma and taking the business world by storm. I left feeling extremely inspired and reminding myself to get back to doing the Tracey Anderson method. Her legs were insane!

Atlanta & Company: Different Parenting Styles

Jon and I had so much fun this week on the panel at NBC’s Atlanta & Company talking about our parenting style. WE have been together 17 years, and I am still learning from this guy. Thank God our styles compliment each other more than they divide us. Except for the fact that he is a complete puch over when it comes to my daughter! We have such a blast on the show. Watch every week day in Atlanta on NBC from 11-12 eastern.

Denna & Jon on the panel

The Top 5 Reasons Not to Give Up On Your Dreams

You may have found this post today because you are feeling exhausted, overwhelmed or maybe even lost in the minutiae of trying to have it all. You have a dream. You have a job, and perhaps you have a family. You want to be fulfilled in all aspects of your life but usually it is the dream that can get left out in the cold of an over committed life. It takes a lot of mental stamina and blind hope to keep working towards a dream when all of these things are constantly getting in your way. This is a reminder that YOU need to KEEP GOING! Read more

Add #SameTribe to your social media platforms if you want to bring awareness to fatherlessness

#SAME TRIBE

1 in 3 women have been the victim of sexual assault or harassment.

1 in 3 women are fatherless.

Although the 2 are not mutually exclusive the silence can be. In our society, women are taught to be ashamed of things that happen TO them. In the sometimes brainwashed mentality of our society we often blame the victim first. I believe this has a lot to do with why, we as fatherless daughters, tend to keep our emotions of loss, shame and guilt to ourselves when it comes to fatherlessness. We don’t want to bring attention to a) our fathers and b) our loss or abandonment. The reasons are twofold. Read more

Let That Submarine Sink: How To Handle A Man-Child Who Keeps Popping Back In Your Life

 

If you are a woman walking on this planet you have undoubtedly been faced with the unnerving situation of “submarining.” The new pop culture term defining when a man you are dating ghosts you for no real reason only to pop back up a few months later with no explanation or apology as to why he left in the first place. It is why girl’s night out, wine nights, urgent phone calls in the middle of the night and self-help books exist today. We need a group of like-minded women to help us analyze these confusing situations pronto. Because we simply don’t get what the hell happened in the first place. Having a tribe of supporters to remind us that sometimes it is actually the about the guy and not about us is just what the doctor ordered.

 

I once had this hot Vin Diesel looking guy court me from afar for years. He was friends with my ex and always seemed to be checking me out when we were in the same vicinity. I loved the attention and when my ex and I broke ties he happened to pop up at the same party I was attending. He asked me out. We had an amazing date and talked at a restaurant into the wee hours of the morning. He dropped me off at my doorstep and asked me to accompany him to a friends wedding the next day. I never heard form him again. My pride stopped me from asking what happened, and I assumed it was because of some kind of guy code with my ex. Years later I ran back into him. He asked me back out and basically the same thing happened again only this time there was no wedding just a promise to see me again. Keep in mind we never got past first base. Fast-forward a few months later to me seeing him out and confronting him. Come to find out I reminded him of his old babysitter whom he had, had a brief affair with as a young adult and had never truly gotten over. We would have never gotten anywhere as a couple. All it took was me asking him what had happened to find out all I ever needed to know. He wasn’t ready for a relationship with me or anyone else for that matter.

As a relationship expert I see this phenomena all the time. When a woman meets a man like this she has to simply cut bait and remind the universe that she is worthy of an adult conversation if and when the guy decides to duck out.

 

If you find yourself in a relationship or early “like” with a submarine, let him sink. He most likely has a commitment issue and can’t seem to wrap his mind around staying the course in a new relationship for what ever his reasons are. If he has managed to pull you back in, simply give him a boundary list. Tell him what you will and will not put up with. Let him know that if he is thinking about circling back your way he needs to be ready to do what he says he is going to do like: show up, follow-up and man up in the situation. Remember, delivery is key and standing up for what you want is HOT and NOT bitchy.

 

Submarining is a crappy behavior. It is only acceptable if he comes back with a reason for leaving you hanging in the first place. Women have to know what they will and will not stand for. We have to teach men-children exactly what real women want and expect. The minute you give him room to resort back to childhood behavior you are setting yourself up for another submarine submersion and who knows how long they will stay under this time.

 

 

 

 

Do You Want To Become A Fatherless Daughter Mentor? Now Is Your Chance!

Become a Fatherless Daughter Mentor

 

Check out some of our fatherless daughter mentors in this video talking about how one of our events impacted their lives.

Join us for our next #FatherlessDaughterMovementMentorshipProgram in Atlanta on Saturday, November 4th. Read more